How to Make a Man Obsessed With You: Psychology Works!

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Article inspired by James Bauer, author of His Secret Obsession
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How to Make a Man Obsessed With You? Psychology Works!

Have you been wondering how to make a man obsessed with you? Psychology is something people often overlook.

I’ll bet you and your partner couldn’t get enough of each other in the first few months of your relationship. But then, mysteriously, did he start becoming quiet and “distant”, and eventually stop calling you? You don’t understand why, or what you might have done wrong. Every woman dreads that.

You could spend countless hours, days or weeks – and sleepless nights – trying to figure out what went wrong, without coming to any conclusion. But how is it that some women much less attractive than you are able to get any guy they want – and keep them? How can you discover their closely-guarded secret?

Well – now you can!

James Bauer is a dating and relationship expert who has been helping men and women for many years to fix their relationship problems. He understands the inner workings of a man’s mind very well.

His best-selling courses, “His Secret Obsession” and “What Men Secretly Want” have enabled countless women to transform their failing relationships with some simple tweaks.

According to James, there is one thing men crave more than anything else in a relationship. He wants it more than love, money or even sex. It’s something so vital to him, so deeply rooted in his psyche, that knowing how to trigger that secret instinct would make him totally obsessed with you.

What is this thing that he’s so thirsty for?

He wants to be seen as your hero.

To get straight to the answer, this video will reveal how you can trigger his thirst for something he needs and craves. Not only that, you’ll even discover how to make sure you are the only person he will allow to satisfy this powerful longing.

Here’s why the man in your life can’t tell you what he craves most from his relationship with you… He’s embarrassed to admit the truth. Why? Because admitting to this desire actually moves him farther away from the goal. Here’s why…

Now, picture a woman who feels frustrated that her man never does anything romantic. She finally breaks down and explains her desire to feel pursued and romanced by him.

But he acts like she’s being unreasonable. He demands that she name one thing that’s missing from the relationship. She responds with an example: “It would be nice to get flowers once in a while. Just simple things like that.”

The next day, he brings her flowers. But the magic of this gesture is missing. It just doesn’t feel special to receive flowers when you have to ask for them.

What Men Really Thirst For

It’s kind of like that with men, only with a completely different sort of relationship need. You see, men have an insatiable thirst for your admiration. The thing is, he can’t ask for it. He can’t say, “Jenny, I really like you but here’s what’s missing in our relationship: you don’t admire me enough. You seem to have greater admiration for other men in your life, and that makes it hard for me to imagine a future with you.”

He can’t say that because men believe that admiration should be earned. Asking for it is like trying to become popular by announcing that you’re a cool person. It doesn’t work that way.

He will only feel like your hero when you speak the non-verbal language of admiration. He has to read it between the lines of what you actually say and do.

Now, you might be thinking, “That’s not so crazy. I can understand why a man craves admiration”. But if you’re thinking that, there’s something important you need to know.

It’s not just that men crave admiration. It’s that he can’t sustain that “in love” feeling without it.

The Attraction Killer!

Nothing kills a man’s attraction more quickly than a relationship where he doesn’t feel needed. He wants to see himself as a provider, someone who is admired because of his ability to provide. If he doesn’t feel needed, he feels like he’s less of a man, emasculated. That will switch off his romantic drive.

The worst part is, you can’t just give him admiration. It’ll only work if he believes he has earned your admiration, trust and respect.

But here’s the good news. It’s both easy and fun to let him earn your admiration once you know how to set him up for success. Just find ways to let him be your hero.

Now, there is actually an art to doing that in a way that makes him crazy about you.

Trigger His “Hero” Instinct

Some women are able to wrap their man around their little finger using this simple concept. Some techniques work better than others. However, it all comes down to one thing:

You need to trigger his hero instinct.

Once you’ve accomplished that, you’ll be astonished by what happens next. He’ll become so attentive, so loving, so much more interested in a committed, long-term relationship, that you will never want things to go back to the way they were.

The “hero instinct” is a subconscious drive that makes a man gravitate toward people who make him feel like a hero. But it’s amplified in his romantic relationships. Some ideas really are life-changing; and for romantic relationships, this is one of them.


Triggering his hero instinct is one thing. Learning how to do it over and over again requires a few tips and tricks.

Women don’t need someone to rescue them, especially in this day and age. The irony is, men do still need someone to rescue. It’s built into their DNA to seek out relationships that will allow them to feel like a provider.

This one tiny difference in male and female genetics creates a BIG difference in what attracts men to the opposite sex. He feels drawn to any woman who allows him to step into the role of a hero. His instincts naturally cause him to thirst for that social role.

Here’s the really cool thing about this: He won’t even know why he feels so drawn to you, which is why you can use this method under the radar. It triggers attraction at a subconscious level. He’ll feel the undeniable tug on his emotions. Yet, if his buddy asks him why he’s so crazy about you, he won’t be able to put it into words.

There is a hidden world driving our feelings of attraction, that’s a definite fact. But we now have the power to see one powerful part of that hidden world – and it’s something you can actually control.

It’s a pattern of interaction between men and women. Once you learn to spot it, you’ll be able to see it all around you. Relationship experts have always known that it exists but did not realize what a powerful trigger it is. It’s a trigger that drives a man’s thirst for companionship.

How can you use this trigger to build passion and romance?

The Solution: Turn On the Passion and Romance

Here’s the easiest way to trigger a man’s hero instinct: Translate your needs and desires into a language that his natural inclination to be a provider can understand. His natural desire is to love, serve and protect. His desire is to be someone’s hero.

This is a relationship-enhancement tool that you can learn to use for a lifetime of happiness. You already have needs and desires; you can easily learn how to translate those needs and desires into requests that trigger your man’s hero instinct.

Once you know exactly how to satisfy his thirst to be a hero, you’ll enjoy basking in the warmth and passion that only comes when a woman has triggered his hero instinct.

Click here to discover how to make your man obsessed with you!

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